Total waste

Wtf, not only did mum have to pay for a stairlift to be installed but now has to pay to have it taken out!  And no one wants it!  Its barely a year old and yet it is absolutely worthless.  I cant believe the wasteful way our country deals with mobility aids.  The NHS does not want used walking frames, handrails, commodes or stairlifts returned and they are all just thrown away.  I am going to have to scout around for a charity that might need them, but thought that was what I could do with the stairlift – more than happy to donate the thing, but instead we had to pay nearly £200 for someone to come and remove it.

The first company didn’t turn up as promised and the second said they would come in a few days but it took a fortnight and even then were a couple of hours late, having to come from the North of England.  It was then a very painful experience watching the guy trying to remove the thing.  Having taken it up to the top of the stairs, he then fiddled with various parts and it stopped working altogether.  I suggested it was because he had loosened the stop at the top, but he denied touching it.  About an hour later, he said ‘oh, its the stop at the top that’s stopping it move!’.  Nearly 5 hours later I finally helped him carry it over to his van.  I am sure he deserved the £200 for the time and effort, but doubt he will get much of it.  They claimed they would not refurbish it, hence the charge, but would dispose of it ethically, but as he sawed the rail in half he groaned that this one wouldn’t be refurbished so I wasn’t that impressed.  Anyway, it has finally gone and at least I was able to use some of the time to make a start on clearing out one of the rooms.

Why is nothing easy?

Not enough time or space

I asked for time to get the room ready for mum but even I underestimated what was involved.  It has been a real panic trying to getting new non-slip flooring measured, ordered and laid in just one week (my carpet was moth ridden I am ashamed to say), furniture delivered and all the supplies ordered.  But the room is I hope more or less ready.

The hospital agreed to provide mum with an adjustable hospital bed.  I couldn’t believe it – this would be such a great help.  Strangely she was not entitled to one before, despite the fact that she was not able to turn over in bed or sit up.  I had tried a grab bar but it made no difference. Clearly having a stroke ticks the right boxes.  They even offered to provide a small over the bed table and a pressure cushion for the chair.  The only problem was they needed to deliver straight away.  I did manage to delay it but only until the day after I returned home from visiting my brother, so the flooring now became critical and the thoughts I had of redecorating had to go out of the window. Probably just as well as it was a bit ambitious.

I had to buy an arm chair which had to be a certain height and obviously need to get that in before mum came or she would have nothing to sit in, so that took lots of research and phone calls to get it delivered in time and also new single bedding and a baby monitor for the nights.   I acquired my son’s bathroom stand (from uni) for her pads and toiletries and splashed out on a video doorbell so she didn’t become anxious if anyone knocked as I could answer remotely.

I was unable to get a wardrobe and chest of drawers in time, so she still had to live out of a suitcase for a few days but now they are here but there is still nowhere to put everything!

I can’t believe she needs so much stuff and we haven’t even brought her personal things from home yet!  She needs towels, flannels, soap free toiletries, a bowl, telephone, waste bin, commode, frame, footstool, doorstop, extra bedding, waterproof things plus old towels, tissues, incontinence pads and sheets, toilet rolls, wipes, medication, pill cutter, creams. disinfectant, air freshener, television, non slip bed socks plus somewhere for visitors to sit.  The room is fairly big but I really need to be better organised as everything is all over the place!